FILMS… An Affair to Remember (1957)



Heavenly hopes for that memorable date…


A playboy and a young lady fall in love and agree to meet in six months if they are unattached.


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I’d only heard of An Affair to Remember (1957)  from the references made in the Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan romantic comedy, Sleepless in Seattle (1993). The most memorable scene is where Rita Wilson’s character Suzy literally gets super tearful talking about this movie with the only person concerned being Hanks’ screen son.

There is ambivalence from her screen husband Greg (Victor Garber) and Sam (off-screen husband, Hanks) who then dismiss it as a chick’s movie and then move on in the conversation. I can totally relate to this scene, especially the men’s response, as recently as last year.

This was when a stepdude naturally assumed I would cry at Star Wars The Force Awakens (2016) in Hans Solo’s final scenes discussing this as a given fact rather than a possibility. As I do have a habit of crying at most movies (last crying at World War Z (2013)). Much to my family’s unconditional acceptance.

So the film starts with newscasters around the world reporting that Nicki Ferrante (Cary Grant), the notorious playboy has gotten engaged to be married. Ferrante is travelling alone from Europe to New York to meet his fiancée, and the world is interested in how this heiress has snared the most eligible of bachelors.

Meanwhile, Ferrante is fending off his many admirers, looking rather dashing in a tuxedo. But he appears to be a bit of a cad and a bounder, with a recent fling angrily telephoning him angrily about this news. Looking for a mislaid cigarette case, Ferrante finds it in the hands of one, Terry McKay (Deborah Kerr).

After a mild flirtation from his side and some fun retorts from Terry, they agree to have dinner together. And we find out they although are both with other people, Terry is also travelling alone without her partner. The pair bump into each other a few more times during the trip, and are warm to each other becoming good friends.

However, they are caught together on film by the Ship’s photographer. As Terry is not wanting to cause a scandal, they try to avoid each other with many subtle but comical scenes. In one such scene, both are eating dinner separately but sitting back to back, to the bemusement of the other passengers. Another scene has Ferrante circling a stairway as Terry walks up the stairs while the pair exchange furtive conversation.

Ferrante invites McKay to join him to visit his grandmother as they dock in France, McKay goes along with him believing it’s another of his ladies. We are as surprised as she is when we meet his widowed grandmother, Janou wonderfully played by Cathleen Nesbitt.

Janou is a lovely character – warm, friendly with lots of stories of her grandson –  and she and McKay get on tremendously well. Janou lets it slip that Ferrante was an artist, but became as critical of his work, however, McKay is passionate about it. Whilst there, Janou plays the piano and McKay sings along. Ferrante is moved by this scene, and during this, both he and McKay exchange looks.

We the audience can see they appear to be falling in love. Ferrante gives his grandmother a painting of his grandfather. After the end of their lovely visit, McKay says she will write to her and Janou promises she will give her the shawl McKay admired one day. As they leave Ferrante and McKay are holding hands, yet McKay breaks away to hug the old lady.

As the ship travels on the pair throw caution to the wind, spending time together and then admitting their feelings on the last night. He proposes to her, and she says she will consider it but that she no longer loves her boyfriend. Ferrante and Terry agree to meet each other in six months, only if they are no longer with their partners and in new careers.

They encourage each other, him to start painting again, and her to return to singing. They agree to meet on July 1st, at 5pm on top of the Empire State building agreeing if they both turn up, that they will get married… and there I will leave the plot but urge you to watch the rest of this movie.

The film was filmed on widescreen and was played wonderfully by the three main characters. Cary Grant plays his playboy as the debonair charmer he plays so well, with you easily seeing why he had so many ladies after him. In Kerr, he sees his ideal match – and she has the approval of his beloved grandmother – but as falls for McKay – Ferrante is both vulnerable and romantic – and I loved him for it.

Kerr makes a good love interest, she plays to and compliments Ferrante’s charm, rather than offends him. Her retorts are fun and inoffensive and delivered beautifully by Kerr.  Nesbitt as Janou is charming from her French accent to her almost conspiracy-like plot to get this pair together.

I felt after spending the afternoon with them and watching them fall in love, it is almost like in offering her shawl to McKay she will get her grandson to have a reason to meet McKay again.  In one scene, where Grant remembers his afternoon with his two favourite ladies, Grant says no lines but you can feel the pain and longing he is feeling. It’s a very moving scene, and Grant makes it a sincere and touching one.

If you read my final ratings (handsqueeze, weeper and hulk), I need not say more than this, but this film does have many examples of these moments, throughout the rest of the movie through to the last scene. Even the final line, will make you beg for a sequel – or if you are like me you will make your own one up – rather than a reboot. But you will probably cry at least once (unless you too think of it as a chick’s movie or you have a heart of stone).

However, I could be wrong but I’m only watching this version of the movie. The film was remade as Love Affair (1994) and with the husband and wife team of Warren Beatty and Annette Bening. Although I did enjoy a few of Beatty’s films from the 1970s and 80s, I really have no plans to see this movie after seeing the trailer. As this film with Grant and Kerr was to be just perfect.

The acting, the scenery and the excellent comic and dramatic moments keep you at the edge of your seat hoping for a happy ending for the pair from their initial flirtation. A few alterations were made in the Beatty film, such as Katherine Hepburn – in her last cinema film appearance – starred as Beatty’s character’s Aunt Ginny replacing the much-loved grandmother character and the pair meet on a plane.

So no doubt Hollywood moguls will be eyeing up this as another reboot – however, I’d like to suggest Jon Hamm as Nickie, Julia Roberts as Terry and Angela Lansbury as Nickie’s grandmother and set it in the early 1960s, also on a steamboat, but I’d better stop now before I get Cary-ed away…


Weeper Rating: 😦 😦 😦 😦 😦😦 😦 😦 /10

Handsqueeze Rating:  🙂 🙂🙂 🙂 🙂  🙂 /10

Hulk Rating: ‎ ‎mrgreen  ‎ mrgreen  ‎/10


cary-grant-blogathon-banner-3The Cary Grant Blogathon 2016, No 30

This review was submitted as a Main Feature review for this Blogathon. I wrote more on both the leads in 5 Golden Hollywood Greats. Deborah Kerr in The King and I and The Innocents. Cary Grant in Indiscreet, North by North West and Arsenic and Old Lace. Cathleen Nesbitt in Family Plot and The Parent Trap.

16 thoughts on “FILMS… An Affair to Remember (1957)

  1. Love that scene from Sleepless in Seattle…and An Affair to Remember. I actually saw it all in reverse – An Affair to Remember, and then I saw Sleepless in Seattle, because people kept telling me about that one scene. 🙂

    You make me want to sit down and watch this today. 🙂

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    • I have not seen the remake, though I did see the 1939 original with Irene Dunne and Charles Boyer, though my favorite is still the one with Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr. Grant is amazing, isn’t he! The scene you described, where he is remembering both his grandmother and her – gets me every time.

      It would be interesting to see the ’94 version…and then maybe watch Sleepless in Seattle and sort of compare them all…though maybe that would be a bit much to watch so close together…maybe spaced out a bit…:) I’ll be sure to make sure the tissues are on hand!!

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  2. When I first saw An Affair to Remember it didn’t have much of an impact so for years I avoided McCarey’s first version, 1939s Love Affair. When I finally got around to seeing the earlier film, it touched me more deeply than the much longer, Technicolor feature, despite the undeniable charms of Grant and Kerr. It makes me wonder what the ratio is of fans of one or the other. One thing I am certain of, no matter where we fall on that line, everybody must love Sleepless in Seattle.

    Your appreciation of the film, however, has been me consider a re-watch. You are quite persuasive.

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  3. Like you, I arrived at this film via Sleepless
    In Seattle, and while I love me some Hanks-Ryan, Affair to Remember gets the edge. Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr were just too glamorous to deny!

    Funnily enough, I just watched it again recently, and had completely forgotten some of the more humorous moments sprinkled throughout. It’s a nice balance to the tearjerker stuff– Grant was the best at being effortlessly funny.

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  4. Great review! I remember my first time seeing this so vividly. When my parents owned a shop some years ago, they often put me in charge while they were busy with their other jobs. I had been wanting to see An Affair to Remember for some time and when I found it online during a slow work day, I was so stoked. However, the internet connection was terrible and the movie kept buffering every 15 minutes. My sister was working at our aunt’s shop across the way so I would watch a few chunks and then bug her about how much I loved it while it was loading. I was so glad no customers came in during the ending — that final scene devastates me every time.

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  5. I watched this film when I skipped Chemistry class in high school due to the flu. Unfortunately, my grandmother spoiled the ending to me, and I was heartbroken. See, not all grannies are as sweet as Janou!
    Great review!

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  6. I’ve only seen this in bits and pieces. I really need to watch it in one sitting!!!! I LOVE that scene in Sleepless and honestly don’t remember if I saw that part first or the ending of An Affair…

    I have seen the original Love Affair which is beautiful. I encourage you to watch it!!

    Thanks for participating!!!!

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  7. Dear Gill,

    I was just wondering if you know whether or not you’ll be able to participate in the “Singing Sweethearts Blogathon.” If you find that you will be able to participate, please let me know so I can put you down on the roster! I believe Tiffany mentioned it to you in a previous comment, and I would like very much to know if you will be able to participate.

    If you need any suggestions, I would be glad to give some. Since you may write about movies which Jeanette and Nelson made separately, as well as the ones they made together, there are quite a few films from which to choose.

    Please let me know if you can participate. The blogathon is drawing near, and I have few participants, so I would greatly appreciate a contribution from you.

    Many thanks and good wishes!


    Rebekah Brannan

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